You find a dark place with warning signs or a rusted barrel with a bio-hazard label, you know what to do. Run, in the opposite direction, because that is some nasty crap that will cause you irreversible harm.
Simple, right? The very image ignites a fight or flight reflex in your lizard brain and off you go. So why do we ignore a toxic person, a relationship, or worse yet, we make excuses for the human environmental hazard these people leave in their wake?
Back when we were kids, (OK, that may be a bit longer for me than some of you) remember that one bully, or mean girl who spread their vicious, petty web of hate and torment like a bad yeast infection? They were the social black cloud and trouble followed wherever they went. That’s not to say they weren’t popular. They had their followers, the minions who fawned over every acidic word, out of fear that they would become the next target. The negativity, fear-mongering and the first seeds of moral corruption started early with these juvenile predators.
Some people never grow out of the mean-spirirted, toxic behavior patterns. Self-centered, bitter and unconcerned about the impact of their behavior on others. They find some soapbox to climb on and spew discontent. They become bureaucrats, politicians and other sorts of professional meddlers. What baffles me, is the dark little imp will be the first one to cry “foul” when someone calls them on their destructive B.S. You see them all the time, they’re like an honest to God version of The Walking Dead, sucking the life out of a room when they slither in.
Can you imagine what it’s like to be in their skin? Absorbing all that negative energy, always having to get in the last dig, always destroying, never creating. A miserable Purgatory of an existence. They act, as if they are above the fray, oblivious to all that vitriol. Deep inside, they feel it and it eats them from the inside. The thing is, these creatures of discontent hide their own pain and fear, with claiming they aren’t being heard, or not taken seriously, or “Why won’t people listen to reason and do it my way?”
This kind of toxicity is highly contagious.
I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve fallen into their trap. Once you engage, to help them understand, or to clarify or correct, they win. These psychic vampires suck your time and energy and leave you drained and frustrated. You won’t have changed their minds, or character and you’ve lost time and energy you’ll never get back. It’s like that old folk saying, “You can’t teach a pig to sing, it wastes your time and annoys the pig.”
Avoid them! Cast a pox on their houses and stay away. If I’d looked for the signs, they were there. I don’t intend to invest in a closet full of biohazard suits, so the path of “best resistance” is stay outside the killing zone and let them stew in their own juices. Negativity, – who has time for that?